Disciple making is an intimate, personal working in the lives of people and cannot take place in situations that are too big, too formal or too impersonal. People live according to values and values can only change if people live the true and everyday life in each others presence. The power of example has always been the strongest. You can reason with someone’s theology, but not with the lives people are living. The saying goes – “The man with experience is not at the mercy of the man with the argument.” Our instruction is to love people and in this way to carry out the Great Commission. “People do not care how much you know, until they know how much you care.” Each and every one of us needs groups, communities and families where we can learn from example. The poorest person is one who lives on his/her own and has to find answers to everything on his/her own. One-on-one discipleship is good, but it will give you less experience to learn from. One-on-one mentoring also takes a lot of time. We also have to learn that our problems and challenges are not so unique that no one else can associate with them. Each person needs to commit and lay down his/her life in a group that functions like a family in order to receive input and to be accountable to that group. In a large gathering we can all listen together to a sermon, but very little disciple making and life transformation take place there.
The best space for disciple making to take place is in small groups, communities or families – not necessarily on a one-to-one basis or in huge masses